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Interesting read …The reality of wealth

In 1923, eight of the wealthiest people in the world met. Their combined
wealth, it is estimated, exceeded the wealth of the government of the United
States at that time. These men certainly knew how to make a living and
accumulate wealth.

But let’s examine what happened to them 25 years later.

1. President of the largest steel company, Charles Schwab, lived on borrowed
capital for five years before he died bankrupt.

2. President of the largest gas company, Howard Hubson, went insane.

3. One of the greatest commodity traders, Arthur Cutton, died insolvent.

4. President of the New York Stock Exchange, Richard Whitney, was sent to
jail.

5. A member of the President’s Cabinet, Albert Fall, was pardoned from jail
to go home and die in peace.

6. The greatest “bear” on Wall Street, Jessie Livermore, committed suicide.

7. President of the world’s greatest monopoly, Ivar Krueger, committed
suicide.

8. President of the Bank of International Settlement, Leon Fraser, committed
suicide.

What they forgot was how to make a life! Money in itself is not evil! Money
provides food for the hungry, medicine for the sick, clothes for the needy.
Money is only a medium of exchange. We need two kinds of education. One that
teaches us how to make a living and one that teaches us how to live. There
are people who are so engrossed in their professional life that they neglect
their family, health and social responsibilities. If asked why they do this
they would reply that they were doing it for their family.

Our kids are sleeping when we leave home. They are sleeping when we come
home. Twenty years later, we’ll turn back, and they’ll all be gone. Without
water, a ship cannot move. The ship needs water, but if the water gets into
the ship, the ship will face problems. What was once a means of living for
the ship will now become a means of destruction. Similarly we live in a time
where earning is a necessity but let not the earning enter our hearts, for
what was once a means of living will be become a means of destruction.

So take a moment and ask yourself….has water entered my ship?

On average, each highly stressful year that you endure shaves about 6 years off your lifespan.

People experiencing high stress have been measured to lose their telomeres much faster than normal. Telomeres are the caps at the end of your DNA strands that keep them from fraying. You slowly lose these telomeres as you age, but stress can speed up the process dramatically, effectively causing your body to wear out much sooner.

In this case, stress is the feeling that you don’t have much control over your life. That feeling of being out of control is damaging to your health at the cellular level.

One especially common form of stress is work-related abuse. Your boss gives you more work than you can reasonably handle. You make a minor mistake and get chewed out. You get blamed for something that isn’t your fault. Subjecting yourself to this kind of environment will likely shave years off of your lifespan.

If you think in terms of the 6-to-1 ratio, hopefully it will sink in to consider just how much damage you may be doing to yourself to tolerate such an environment, damage that can be physically measured in your cells. Do you really want to trade 6 days of life for every one highly stressful day?

Detachment

The idea of detachment is not to get too attached to what happens in your life. Try to be at peace with whatever occurs. If your boss yells at you, shrug it off. No big deal. It’s all good.

Detachment can be helpful in some situations, but it’s only one tool among many. For many situations this tool just doesn’t work so well.

I think detachment works best for infrequent situations. If you have a one-time problem like getting a flat tire, go ahead and shrug it off. So you’ll be late for an appointment. No big deal. Stuff happens.

But if you’re trying to practice detachment in situations where you have to keep reminding yourself to stay calm, such as if you’re in a relationship that stresses you out, or if you have to deal with an ogre-like boss every week, then I don’t think detachment will get you very far. Go ahead and try it if you want, but if you keep getting sucked into problems again and again, then maybe this isn’t the best tool for the job.

Standards

In many situations a more effective strategy than detachment is to get clear about your personal standards and enforce them in your life. Stop giving dumb, angry, or stressed out people control over your time, your space, and your life.

Many times people end up in stressful situations because they’ve maintained low personal standards. They let other people talk down to them, treat them unfairly and disrespectfully, and take advantage of them. They’re willing to trade their dignity and self-respect for a job, an income, a place to live, a family, etc. But in the end, these decisions so often lead to high stress and a feeling of not being in control. And that loss of self-control ages and kills people much faster.

In the long run, when you give away control over your life, you literally give away your life. It’s slow suicide.

If you find yourself in a stressful situation, then perhaps it’s time to start taking some control back. Raise your standards about what’s acceptable to you in terms of how you’re treated, how you’re willing to invest your precious time, and how you want your physical environment to be maintained. Communicate these standards to others, and if they don’t cooperate, stop dealing with them.

Most stress comes from other people. Which people are you letting in? Raise your standards there, and it will make a huge difference in the level of stress you experience.

Of course this will create some consequences. You may need to switch jobs. You may shift some of your relationships around. That’s the price to be paid for a mistake you made much earlier. At some point you gave your power away, which was a dumb thing to do. Continuing to give your power away is even dumber; reclaiming your power now is the smart move. People may not want to give it back to you, but you don’t need their permission.

It will take time to go through this readjustment process, maybe months and possibly years. But in the end, you’ll have your self-respect back, and you’ll have the opportunity to form positive new relationships that aren’t based on unfair power exchanges. You can have a boss and coworkers that respect you and treat you with kindness and understanding. You can have family members that respect your boundaries. And you can have friends that relate to you with maturity and mutual respect instead of treating you like a doormat. But if you continue to maintain doormat-level standards, others will continue to treat you like one.

If you do nothing, the stress and lack of control you experience now will probably just get worse, and your body is already paying the price. You can choose to exercise your independent will and change course, or you can continue to commit slow suicide.

Stop Making Stupid Trades

One reason that people lack the energy for their grand creative pursuits is that they don’t wield enough control over their lives. This lack of control is stressful. In dealing with this stress, such people lose even more time and energy to distractions and escapism. Testing has shown they their memories worsen as well. They become scatter-brained. It’s no wonder that many of them can’t even summon enough energy to figure out what they want to create, let alone take steps to create it.

Tolerating a stressful lifestyle isn’t a path to fulfillment. The path to fulfillment is to your energy straight into your creative desires. To do this you must stop making stupid trades with your time and energy. Trading your time for a stressful job and trading a peaceful home life for a stressful relationship are stupid decisions.

Initially it’s more important to avoid stupid trades than it is to make smart ones. You probably won’t have the capacity to know what a wise investment of time and energy looks like until you withdraw enough of your energy from those bad trades and regain some control. Ask yourself which situations you’d willingly enter again if you had to make the choice today. If there are some trades you wouldn’t make today, then you now see them as mistakes, so stop doing them.

Take Control

Once you’ve withdrawn your time and energy from commitments that were mistakes in retrospect, you can use that energy to exert more control over your life.

Assert control over how you spend your time. Get up when you want. Go to bed when you want. Exercise when you want. Work when you want. Pursue hobbies when you want. You decide how to spend every minute of every day. If that sounds like a fantasy, then you’ve allowed your personal standards to fall so far that they’re actually lower than those of a pigeon. If a pigeon gets to decide how to spend its time each day, why should you deserve any less? Surely you can exert more control over your life than a pigeon can. You are smarter than a pigeon, aren’t you?

Take control of your living space. Decorate it however you like. Maintain the level of cleanliness that you desire. Get rid of whatever you no longer want. Create a living space that pleases you. Don’t worry about what other people think of it. Make it fully your own, even if there’s just one room you can control.

Take control of your relationships. Spend time with the people you want, when you want, and how you want. Reject invitations that don’t inspire you. Issue invitations for the connections and experiences you’d like to have in your life. Let people know where your boundaries are, and if they cross those boundaries, drop them, relative or not.

Is this going to make you an anti-social ogre? Nope. All I’m suggesting is that you raise your standards back up to those of a pigeon. You can still meet your needs without becoming a stressed-out, dominated doormat. With higher standards you’ll not only be less stressed, but you’ll be a lot happier too. People will treat you with more kindness, respect, and fairness if you stop tolerating the opposite. Money also has a tendency to flow more abundantly through the lives of people who respect themselves; giving your power away repels financial abundance and attracts financial slavery.

Stop making excuses for why it’s okay to keep giving your power away. Stop acting helpless, needy, and desperate. Your life depends on this.

Reclaim your power, raise your standards, take control, and save your own life.

~By Steve Pavlina.

I read it as a forward.  I loved this post so much that it definitely needs a mention on my blog:

33 Ways to Stay Creative:

1. Make Lists
2. Carry a Notebook everywhere
3. Try free writing
4. Get Away from the Computer (The best one)
5. Be otherworldly
6. Quit Beating Yourself up
7. Take Breaks
8. Sing in the Shower
9. Drink Coffee/ Tea
10. Know your roots
11. Listen to new music (One of my favorites which I have stopped doing from sometime)
12. Be Open
13. Surround Yourself with Creative people
14. Get Feedback
15. Collaborate
16. Don’t Give Up
17. Practice, Practice, Practice
18. Allow Yourself to make Mistakes
19. Go Somewhere new
20. Watch Foreign Films
21. Count Your Blessings
22. Get Lots of Rest
23. Take Risks
24. Break the rules
25. Do more of what makes you happy
26. Don’t Force it
27. Read a page of the dictionary
28. Create a framework
29. Stop Trying to be someone else’ perfect
30. Got an idea? Write it down
31. Clean your workspace
32. Have fun
33. Finish something.

Best Wishes.

Well, this is something I am currently exploring. Just now I finished a book named “A Still, Small Voice: A Psychic’s Guide to Awakening Intuition” by Echo Bodine.

This is the first book I read written by Echo Bodine, however I have heard a lot about her from my friends who are interested in psychic mediums. This whole area of awakening intuition excited me so much that I loved reading this book and I must say as the newbie in the intuition awakening, this book does a very good job.

So, I thought of mentioning in my blog what I learnt from this book on how to listen to your intuition and my personal experience of learning :-

1. Converse to your intuition by asking it questions:

To start this point, i am going to share one of my personal experiences. A few days ago I was not in my best mood and thought that I would  go to gym and hopefully feel better. While I was in the treadmill, i started talking to myself silently but in the form of question and answers. I was asking myself question and somehow i was getting an answer as if someone is talking to me. For that 30 minutes of workout, i just talked and talked and talked. I asked questions like ” Why I am feeling bad?”, “How I am doing as a mother?”, “What more I can do for my son?”, “What I need to learn?”, “What actually makes me happy?”. Strangely, I got answers like “Spending time with the family and writing makes you happy”. That day I didn’t know how the Question and answer session worked but it really did made me feel very good when I came back from gym.

If you want to start the intuition awakening too, you may start with small and easy questions and see if you recognize the answer immediately. E.g Let’s say one morning when going to work, you are unable to find your car keys. Don’t just start criticizing yourself or someone else for misplacing the keys. Let go of the criticism and ask just a simple , plain question “Where are my keys?” Wait for a second or two to have a thought or an answer. the answer might lead to the place your keys would be right now.

There could be chances that you don’t get the answers immediately at the same time but do not worry, keep practicing this art. You will definitely  reach a state when you get the answers for your questions.

2. Be aware  when you get the answers:

As I said, there would be some questions about which you would not get answers right then and there. So, you need to be aware when the answer comes to you.

Let me explain this statement with the help of an example.Let’s say, on the way to explore your intuition and yourself, you asked what’s the purpose of my life. There are chances that you might not get the answer right at that moment. So, let’s say while doing your errands , you might have this inspired thought of learning meditation. May be while learning  meditation, you get another thoughts which takes you ahead with the purpose of your life. So, in order to differentiate those inspired thoughts and regular thoughts, you need to be aware. By aware, I mean not just awake but awake with mindfulness. By being aware, you are in the NOW. There is one quick way to come to mindfulness or aware state from auto-pilot state (when you are just awake and doing errands without putting much thought onto it) is ask yourself this question – Am I aware? To answer a ‘Yes’ to this question you would come to the now and be aware of the surroundings and at the same time you can feel your surroundings . Try this small exercise, and I am sure it would work.

3. Let go of EGO by recognizing its voice:

We need to know when the inner voice talking to us is our ego.Ego is when our happiness/unhappiness depends on something external like I’ll be happy when my partner(or children) behaves the way I want him/her to behave. That’s pure ego. It gives us nothing but anger, worry, anxiety, fear and unhappiness.

As my favorite author Dr. Wayne Dyer describes it , EGO is when we Edge God Out(EGO). Intuitive voice will always have a  serenity as if God has approved of what your inner voice is telling us. Ego voice would never have calm and peace. If the answer has peace within , it is definitely your inner voice and not the ego.

The more you practice talking with yourself to grow your intuitive skills, the better you become in this art.

I wish you all the best in enhancing your psychic abilities.

May God Bless each one of us.

I read this article somewhere. Liked it so much that I would love to share this article here on my blog:

I PROMISE MYSELF:

~to be strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

~to talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person I meet.

~to make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

~to look at sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

~to think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best.

~to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

~to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

~to wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.

~to give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

~to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

~to think well of myself and to explain and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

~to live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

May God Bless each one of us.

“Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” ~Mother Teresa

There are so many people around us who just don’t utilize their ability to smile and keep on frowning even when a smile is expected or when they can easily smile.

How can I not mention my yesterday’s experience in my blog. It was one of the most important day of my lives. I was in the state of trance most of time.

Yesterday, I went to listen Dr Wayne Dyer‘s speech on his new book ‘Wishes Fulfilled‘. That was a live event taped for KPBS and would be telecast-ed on TV in February 2012.

It started with Wayne Dyer’s entry where everyone gave him a standing ovation and clapped for around 5 minutes even before he started saying anything. I was crying out of happiness to see him. From last one year, his books and his audio tapes are a profound part of my life. After getting to know his work, I have started to look life in altogether different perspective.  Before, I was a part of rat race and just running and running as that seemed correct to survive. But now I know, Relaxing and being happy would take me to my destination rather than just running blindly.

After his introduction he started telling us about his experience in San Diego and how he met a homeless man and offered him food and gave a smile and a laugh to him. I wish we all had that courage to just go out and help whoever we want to and not think with our ego that how can I do it, what will others think about me etc etc.

Then, after a small talk with the audience, the taping of the show started for the public television channel KPBS. It was so fun as this was my first experience to see the live taping event. Dr Dyer was so good as he just has to read his pointers on the tele-prompter and all his words would just come out from his heart. He is also funny and would give us funny quotes and instances in between.  I strongly believe we all should have an essence of fun in us. Life can not be live with a frown or serious face. We need to have fun in life to let it go smoothly.

I loved when he discussed about- ‘Last 5 minutes of your day’. He emphasized that the last 5 minutes of your day is the most important time of your day. This is the time when you are just about to go to sleep. This is the time, you should think what you really really really want in your life which sounds natural to you. Your sleep is the time when your subconscious mind is working with the Universe on what this person in intending to attract in his life.

Yesterday, I went to sleep with these words in my mind:

1. I am well.

2. All is well. Me and my family is safe.

3. I am divine being who is fit and healthy.

4. Thank You God for your continued blessings.

5. I am attracting abundance of wealth in my life.

I repeated it over and over till I went to sleep.

The last act was the best act of the show. There were about 20 kids around 10-12 years of age who sang the song  ‘Amazing Grace’ for all of us. Most of audience including me were in tears seeing those lovely creature singing beautifully.

Dr Dyer gave the strong message to make a world a better place so that future generations have a better place to live.

My sincere gratitude to Dr Dyer for being a part of this world and making it better each day.

May God Bless you Dr Dyer. I would definitely meet you one day and hug you and would say 2 words-Thank You.

May God Bless each one of us.

In this post, I would be discussing an issue which has been a part of my life  throughout, except for the last couple of months. It was always been a challenge to get up in the morning as soon as alarm goes off . I would hit the Snooze button at least 3 times and then wake up all hurried up and would start my day, rushing. Deep within I always wanted to wake up at 5:00 am (which was like a dream wake up time for me),do some Yoga, Meditation in the morning, make myself a cup of tea and enjoy it while I am reading a book. That seemed like a dream to me.

So, i am going to share what worked for me as now I always wake up at 5:00 am when my alarm buzzes. I don’t push the Snooze button as I don’t feel like pushing it., getup from my bed, say ‘Thank You God‘ for the new day, brush my teeth immediately as brushing my teeth and the contact with water take away any sleep if there has been. Freshen up myself. Do Yoga or meditation or go to Gym (one or the other for sure) at around 5:30 am and do it till  6:30 am till the time to wake up my son. Then I prepare my cup of tea, prepare breakfast and make the lunch bags for my husband , myself and my son. I just enjoy the whole process and cherish each moment of this process.

But i should confess this morning routine turned into reality just few months back.

Well, let me share how this all happened to me. It happened with affirmations. Whole day, I  say this in my mind – “I am a divine being who is fit and healthy” (That’s how I get the motivation of Gym, Yoga and meditation) and “I get up at 5:00 am each morning “. I still do it everyday. This is actually about programming your sub-conscious mind. We are more what our subconscious mind thinks then our conscious mind think. At 5:00 am in the morning, we are still in a state of subconsciousness to some extent. Having a subconscious mind which is saying -”It is the time to getup and start your day” is what we have to master to. At that time, our subconscious mind, which do not want to get up, gives us numerous reasons why not to get up and how sleeping would be better than to follow morning routine. We fall for what our subconscious mind is saying to us at that moment  and just do not leave the bed.

Some people plan their mornings at night and think ‘I am going to wake up at 6 am and follow my morning regime’ and then in the morning they fail to follow what they said in the night. That’s because they thought with their conscious mind and did not train their subconscious mind.The easiest way to train your subconscious mind is to tell it the whole day what you want in reality. It can be your background process. You don’t have to be say it loud, just say it to yourself not to anyone else.

The person who has conquered its subconscious mind can conquer anything.

So, try this simple way to do some self -talk with your mind and keep on saying whatever you want your reality to become.

Enjoy your mornings and your day.

May God Bless each one of us.

The art of manifestation is the art which helps you to reach success levels in your life quite easily.

I believe, all the achievers use this art to achieve success knowingly or unknowingly. Manifestation is the process of visualizing the outcome of the process before hand, as the way you want it to happen.

For example, let’s say you are going to sit for an interview, then you would want the whole process to happen smooth -from going to the interview location, getting Proper Parking spot, reaching location on time, having to answer the questions confidently and then coming back home.  So, when you approach this process with the art of manifestation hen you actually visualize the whole process in your mind as you would want it to happen. Visualize that you are starting from home on time,hitting no traffic ,reaching the interview location on time, finding the parking spot and then answering the interview questions in the best possible way I guarantee you will be amazed by the results when you see that almost everything you visualized is actually the way it is happening.

How the Art of Manifestation works:

Well, the art of manifestation is also a form of law of attraction, in action. You are actually sending your intention to the universe on how you would want your day to unfold. Universe is like our best friend which is quite faithful on what it responds with. Until, you don’t tell your friend what you want, how will he know what to give you. So, just visualize the whole process or outcome how you would like this to work out for you, in your mind. Universe would definitely get that.

How to use the Art of Manifestation to your benefit:

1. Visualize your day before sleeping:  Before going to bed, think your day you just spent. If there are any moments you would not have wanted to happen, or wanted to change the way you reacted to certain circumstances, then visualize the way you would like them to happen. This way while you are visualizing you are doing the damage control. This way you would know how to react next time this circumstance happen again. Also, the negative effect of the incident would be nullified.

2. Meditate: I can assure you that the best gift you can give to yourself, is the gift of meditation. Meditation can do miracles in your life. Even meditating for 10 minutes will give wonderful results. Just sit quietly, close you eyes , focus on your breathing and visualize how would you want your  life to unfold. Remember, there is nothing like the wrong way of meditation. Once you start doing the meditation, you will definitely find the way which works for you. E.g For me , going into the gap between 2 thoughts works. I follow Dr Wayne Dyer’s Getting in the Gap meditation technique to meditate.

3.Look yourself in mirror and say out loud, how would you want the day to unfold:  This method is also something which I highly recommend as it had done wonders in my life. After getting ready in the morning, I talk it loud in the mirror as how I would like my day to be manifested. This is a kind of self talk which I believe is the most important talk you can ever have. I am happily amazed to see the results as I have manifested it to be.  There would be instances when you would feel the Manifestation process did not work but do not waver your faith from this powerful law. It is definitely working at all the other possible ways.

So, believe in your positive thoughts and manifest your day,week and life and see miraculous results.

May God Bless each one of us.

This one came as a forwarded mail to me. It really touched the chord within me so I decided to share it in my blog. Enjoy!–

By Dr Bronnie Ware


For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.